They go into a confession state of telling one or several that they were advanced on as to make them selves appear and feel like they never did do anything. But the most fear is that ones discovers is the ones that show awareness to eye and body language will somehow accept and even make advances and then emotional try to and become ashamed of their conduct and then try to blame it on the one they accommodated to or for and often feel The trial and error adventures in desperation that begins as ones physical and mental state of desires gets the better of their logical judgment. And no matter how desperately one wants to only seek love and devotion it never worked for me just as most straight guys seeking a lady mate fails. Being discreet and remain a homosexual are not possible after one makes the decision to seek a mate.